"You never stop loving someone; you just learn to live without them.

This situation is always an unfortunate one. It is ideal for 2 people to love each other the same, and at the same pace, but life is never ideal. To get this kind of relationship to work, you need patience! You have to weigh either waiting for him or moving on as options. If your feelings are real, and you choose to hang in there, you must not scare her away with your feelings! If things are meant to work out, you should be great friends before lovers anyway. While you let both your feelings reach equilibrium, you'll find it becomes easier sometimes just to ignore your strong feelings for him and just kick-back and chill with him. It's not always important to impress him, or do nice things for him in a loving way. It may give you hope to know that he can see you in the same light, just not so quickly.

Tough circumstance - being in love with someone who does not feel the same way as you do. It's not a problem - you can fix those, this is almost like "it's raining outside" - just have to deal. Objective advice: If someone doesn't feel the same way as you do - walk off. Don't even give them the privilege of friendship because you'll suck yourself back into the delusion. Do things for yourself, keep busy, bury yourself in work and keep searching for what you really want and need. Don't do what I have done.

It is strange when you’re hurt from rejection, to hear someone say: move on things will be fine. No matter how much you love him, he never loves you back. For all those wondering what went wrong, I can say one thing, just stop wondering say it really aloud "HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU". Only when one stops chasing and pursing someone who doesn't love you, will you open the door to that perfect person who will love you back with the same intensity that you will love him.

Tough one. If we know for a fact there is no hope for a mutual love, then why torture ourselves. Move on. Treat it like a divorce. FORCE yourself to live and keep meeting people. You owe it to yourself to be available for when the right person does come along. Love is like a bus stop, there's always going to be another opportunity for the bus to stop again -- if we are ready for it at the bus stop. Sometimes we don't ever think we could possibly find someone better than that one we are in love with, that doesn't return the love back, but that's not true. We just won't be ready to find it if we are pining for a love that is not healthy or returned. We owe it to ourselves to always know we deserve what's best and healthy. Stop being around that person, if possible. If you can't, then think in your mind about how wonderful it would be to actually find someone special that returns your love. Tell yourself that you deserve it. We can't control love no matter how hard we try. It's just one of those things, but we can choose to love again. Work out, write your thoughts on paper and then shred it but sometimes it helps to get your thoughts out of you, in writing. It's like a release or venting. Then rip it into shreds and flush it or shred it so it can't be found to possibly humiliate you later.

Time. Letting your own grieve and actually being ok with that. Not forcing ourselves to get over someone. Allow your own to feel the hurt, cry, write about it, and listen to sad songs. Soon you will feel so tired from hurting all of the time. You will be ready to move forward. Doing this without contact of the person you love is best. Anyone that will still see you, sleep with you, and spend time with you, knowing they don't love you, and knowing how you feel, is selfish. Everyone deserves more than that. You can't force love out of your heart so don't try, that just hurts worse and you end up lying to yourself. You are human for loving, but you have to love yourself more. I do agree with comments on staying busy, friends and family also help. Casual dating can backfire however, because if the dates don't go well, it will just make you miss the person you love even more. Pray, and remember the good times but learn from the bad. Don't you want, one day, to be truly happy? Life is too short to give up the chance of true love for ourselves. Go out into the world and continue to be the wonderful person that you are. Someone will see this, and love you just as much as you are capable of loving.

You accept yourself as you are, love yourself for who you are, forgive yourself for decisions and actions that have brought you pain, never settle for anything less then what you desire and deserve. Love is all about timing, make yourself the best person you can be both mentally and physically and do it for you, no one else. Once you do that, you will no longer waste your time on man who do not see you for who you are. You will see yourself as a beautiful woman that has so much to offer the right man. But to be able to get over lost love you have to be able to forgive yourself, whether it was your fault or not. You also must make a conscious effort to get him out of your life. Keeping him as a friend will bring only more pain, this is from experience. Let him go, delete his name off your cell phone off your email, put the pictures away. It is your choice to be miserable about the situation, which for the first few months everyone chooses to be sad. But you can also make the choice to be happy, but only YOU can do that. You have one life, why sit there and waste it on a person who can't see all facets of your beauty. Be happy, love yourself, forgive yourself and you will see that that love will radiate and men will be attracted to that. Good men will be attracted to your positive self worth. And that positive self worth gets rid of all the baggage from past relationships that ruin current ones. But this is a choice, a conscious choice to leave the past and be happy and only you can make it. Know one thing, it won’t be easy, but in the end you will have the love you have always desired.

Its mY Off..

Excited to watch Prince of Persia. It's time to relax anyway.So since it's my off. I went to Bacolod spa and spent my whole aftie there. After a relaxing body massage I went to L'sea for some Siomai and Hot tea.. What else... Maybe will have a dinner at lord byrons with anne and kentoy...Just love it when it's my off..=)

Im Sick....

I'm Sick and tired of whats happening to me right now. That's why I asked my self..Did I made the right choice?. Some of my friends says yes you did, But why is it that its telling me " No just continue what you are doing and maybe you will find the answers to your questions". I'm so confused right now............

Will you never get tired loving someone who doesn't love you back?

I think it is really about expectations: if you expect this person to someday love you in return, you will most likely be disappointed (and at some point, tired, angry and/or resentful). But if you just love this person without expecting their love in return, and enjoy their company without trying to obligate them (a very hard thing for many to do) then you are less likely to be disappointed and let down.
Recognizing that love is a gift is the first step. And, that everyone has free will, and so you can't change their feelings is the next... try not to let your feelings for one prevent you from feeling love for another, or being loved by another. It is hard... but it can be done...=)

Love Music. ...

Some believe, as I never used to, that soulmates do exist. That there is one person in all the world that can bring about ultimate fulfillment, boundless love, and perfect completeness in your life. That such things are written for us in the very stars, through the Fates, or merely in our very biology. That if you never find that one, you will never be completely happy. But when you do find that one, you know it through and through, to the tiniest microbe of your being. I had never believed in this. I always thought music was my soulmate, for want of a better word. Music has always inspired me, lived within me, flowed through me beat for beat with my very heart. Music has been the background of all my life's moments, both in joy and in sadness, in love and in loss, in companionship or in my lonliest hours. Music has always been there, and I have adored it with a passion I never felt for anything, nor anyone else.

I, like most people I am sure, can name the tune that played, either in their mind, or around them, through all of their biggest lovelife moments. The first kiss. The first experience of lovemaking. The first great heartbreak. However, music has been so a part of me that I can recall the music that played around me, or in me, at most of my smaller moments as well. The first cup of coffee I ever drank. The first day of a new job. The first song I ever put on a cell phone. Yes, it may seem strange to most of you, but I am that musically inclined. Is it any wonder that music has been my one true love?


I shall always love music. It is my first love. But I have found the greatest gift a woman could ever receive. The ability, and the joy, of being able to keep my first love, and my last love, in my heart together forever.


Until next time, my loving friends. Keep the music of love, and the love of music, in your hearts and souls.

ReUnited AGain...

We've been friends for almost 5 years now. It's been a year already since we were reunited again at LOgs Place..=)

Meet TYLER CAGE...

Channing Matthew Tatum

Channing Tatum was born on April 26, 1980, in a small town called Cullman, outside of Birmingham, Alabama. Growing up, he was full of energy and somewhat troublesome, so his parents decided to enroll him in different sports such as track and field, baseball, soccer, and football to keep him out of trouble. In the ninth grade he was sent to military school. It was there that he discovered his passion for football and his hopes became centered on earning an athletic college scholarship. Channing's goal was finally met, and in his senior year in high school, he was recruited and earned a full athletic college scholarship to a school in West Virginia.

Tatum is also skilled in Kung Fu and in Gor-Chor Kung Fu, a form of martial arts, in which he has earned belts in both. Channing later left college and, in the meantime, worked as a construction worker and mortgage broker and salesman. He has modeled for Abercrombie & Fitch, Nautica, Gap, Aeropostale, Emporio Armani, and has been featured in television commercials for American Eagle, Pepsi, and some very popular mountain dew commercials.

Early life

Tatum was born in Cullman, a small city in Alabama, the oldest of eight children; he has French, Irish and Native American ancestry. His family moved to Mississippi when he was six, although he visits Alabama, where his mother's family still lives, every summer. Tatum grew up in the bayous near the Mississippi River, where he enjoyed a rural existence, including "All the rattlesnakes and alligators a boy could possibly chase, fishing every day, Pop Warner football league, stuff like that". Tatum was athletic while growing up, playing football, soccer, track, baseball and martial arts, and had "a lot of energy", although he says that "Girls were always my biggest distraction in school". During the ninth grade, he was sent to a military school, where he played on the football team. Tatum won a football scholarship to Glenville State College in West Virginia, although he soon lost interest in the sport and turned down the scholarship, citing his dislike of the demands of playing football.
Tatum returned home, feeling that he'd disappointed his parents.He soon worked in construction, an animal nursery, and at a clothing store. During this time, he developed an interest in club dancing.

Career

Tatum's first experience was in the fashion industry as a male fashion model. He was first cast as a dancer in Ricky Martin's She Bangs music video, after an audition in Orlando, Florida; he was paid $400 for the job. He subsequently signed with a modelling agency in Miami, and appeared in Vogue magazine. He soon appeared in the pages of Citizen K, and Contents, as well as campaigns for Abercrombie and Fitch, Nautica, Dolce & Gabbana, American Eagle Outfitters, and Emporio Armani. Tatum has also starred in a few television commercials for American Eagle Outfitters, Pepsi and Mountain Dew, and was picked as one of Tear Sheet Magazine's "50 Most Beautiful faces" of October 2001.
Tatum has said that his modeling career has helped him with his life, specifying that "It's made my life, and my family's life, a lot easier, because I never knew what I wanted to do and now they don't really have to worry about me anymore. I've been able to explore life, and through exploring it I've found that I love art, I love writing, I love acting, I love all the things that make sense to me. And I've been given the chance to go out and see the world, and to see all the things out there. Not everyone gets that chance".
Tatum began his acting career in 2004, appearing in an episode of the television series CSI. His first feature film role was in 2005's high-school drama, Coach Carter, playing Jason Lyle, a street smart basketball player opposite Academy Award Nominee Samuel L. Jackson; Tatum also appeared in Twista's "Hope" music video, which accompanied the film. In the same year, Tatum had an uncredited bit role in War of the Worlds when posing as boy in a church, a factory endorsed top cycle racer in Supercross, and part of the supporting cast in Havoc. Although Tatum has said that he "love[s] modeling", he has taken a break from the profession to concentrate on his acting career, saying that he prefers making more mature movies.
Tatum was originally scheduled to play Gengis Khan in director Sergei Bodrov's epic, Mongol, but was replaced by actor Tadanobu Asano. Tatum also auditioned for the role of Gambit in X-Men: The Last Stand, but was not cast as the character was eventually removed from the film. The film's producer, Lauren Shuler Donner, noticed Tatum and cast him in the film She's the Man, where he plays the love interest of Amanda Bynes' character. The film opened on March 17, 2006.

Tatum in Step Up, 2006
Tatum's most recent roles were in Step Up, a dance-themed romance which opened on August 11, 2006, and the 1980s-set drama A Guide to Recognizing Your Saints, in which he plays Antonio, a street youth in Astoria, Queens. Tatum has described the latter film as his "first dramatic role"; his performance received positive notices at the 2006 Sundance Film Festival, where the film premiered. Tatum's next film role will be in director Kimberly Peirce's Stop-Loss, about a soldier returning home from the Iraq War.

Personal life
In August 2006, columnist Janet Charlton reported that Tatum has been dating his Step Up co-star, Jenna Dewan, since 2005; the two met on the film's set.

Awards
2006
Special Jury Prize
Dramatic, for the ensemble cast
A Guide to Recognizing Your Saints
Shared with Robert Downey Jr., Shia LaBeouf, Rosario Dawson, Chazz Palminteri and Dianne Wiest

Shrek Forever After' tops box office with $71.3M (AP)

"Shrek Forever After" roared its way to the top of the box office, making $71.3 million in its opening weekend.

But the fourth film in the monster franchise from DreamWorks Animation had the weakest debut of all "Shrek" sequels, according to studio estimates Sunday. "Shrek 2," from 2004, opened with $108 million. "Shrek the Third," from 2007, made $121.6 million in its first weekend.

And the latest installment was available for the first time in 3-D and IMAX 3-D, where ticket prices are higher — up to $19 in Manhattan. "Shrek" made just under $5 million on IMAX screens, or 7 percent of the film's weekend gross.

This time, Shrek — voiced as always by Mike Myers — is experiencing a mid-life crisis, so he makes a deal with Rumpelstiltskin to live as a fearsome ogre again for one day. Cameron Diaz, Eddie Murphy and Antonio Banderas return to the voice cast.

Last week's No. 1 movie, "Iron Man 2," dropped to second place with $26.6 million. The superhero sequel from Paramount Pictures has now made over $251 million in three weeks.

The other new wide release, "MacGruber," opened in sixth place with a disappointing $4.1 million. Based on the "Saturday Night Live" sketch, the Universal Pictures comedy stars Will Forte as a bumbling version of the mulleted '80s television character "MacGyver," who was famous for his makeshift method of defusing threats.

But "MacGruber" was a relatively low-risk production because it cost under $10 million to make, which was offset by tax credits and foreign sales, said Geoffrey Ammer, head of worldwide marketing for Relativity Media, which produced the film.

"The honest answer is, it never expanded beyond its `SNL' audience," Ammer said. "We took the picture to (the) South by Southwest (film festival), it got a great response, we took a shot with the picture and we were disappointed but by no means were we at risk at any point."

Hold you Down

You don't know how much you mean to me
Whenever you down
You know that you can lean on me
No matter the situation
Boy, I'm gon' hold you down
..................
Love this song... This is for you ..=)

Ready FOr SOme Shots...?

Atlast got the chance to write a new blog again. Just arrived from my vacation leave. How did I spent my first vacation leave? hmmmm. Oh well I thought I will stay in iloilo for only a day but then thanks to my cousins who are always there for me. If it wasn't for them I didn't get the chance to meet choco. He's so cute and huggable. I already missed him. My first day in iloilo was fun. That time it was our fiesta(food anywhere)I got the chance also to spent more time with my highschool friends. I missed them so badly. Then drinking session starts. Early in the afternoon i was already drunk. Imagine.Thanks to dadi( cuz wilmer ) who is my knight and shining armor..hehe. But then after that we went to plaza ( disco time ). We went home around 4am. Didn't get enough sleep because I left mu phone at my cousins house, and also I need to wake up early. Next destination was Guimaras but then my Tita Melds told us that since it was mothers day we will go out. That night we went to Smallville. Finally. hehe.Unfortunately, Mo2 was closed due to liquor ban... I hate it.Since it was closed we sent to boardwalk. Its like Manila Bay. Went there for biking. It was fun. The place was nice. Good for couples. The next day we went to Guimaras at Kelapa Beach Resort. After that the night was still young. Cuz mJ made a Boracay Mix. The best Boracay Mixed ever. That's how I spent my vacation leave. It was one hell of a shot.

Ready For the new me...

Need to Update my blog soon.=)

Depressed? Eat ChocoLate!!

Yes eating chocolate is also a mood booster. It is good for depressed people like me?haha. Yes I admit it. I'm depressed right now. Just got home from SM with my friend Tin. We went first went @ shakeys and then we tried the ice cream @ Bobs cafe. Even tough it's not obvious but damn!! yes I am depressed. I hate what I'm feeling right now. I hate him.I hate that I love him so. I hate it when he just took me for granted. I almost gave up everything. It really hurts to want everything and nothing and the same time. So goodbye to you.And goodbye to everything I thought I knew. You are the one I love the one thing that I tried to hold on to....Meanwhile, thanks to chocolates I'm ok now. And thanks to (first) for the wink!. It made me feel so good for the meantime.=)

Finding Closure...

How do you tell your heart that it's not supposed to feel for a certain someone anymore? How do you go about finding someone new, when your heart is calling you a traitor the second you think about it? Closure can be a difficult thing for many people to find. It's often as obscure as finding love itself. And, if you truly felt that the person who has departed was THE one, it can make your task of finding closure that more difficult. Like many things worth finding though, it may be difficult, but it's not impossible. When you feel like you'll never move on, or your heart will never love again, try the following ideas to help you find the closure you need and, quite frankly, deserve.

*Ceremonial Goodbye
Often closure is difficult to find because a person wasn't given a proper chance to say goodbye or have a say in the ending of the relationship. It is usually much easier for the person breaking up to move on because they came to terms with the decision before even letting you know about it. To give yourself this same opportunity, collect everything that reminds you of your past love together. Put it in a box. At a time where you can have a few hours of privacy, light a candle and go through the items in the box. As you're lighting the candle, remind yourself that the flame in this relationship has gone out. Know that new flames may come and go, but at one point, a flame so large will come that it will extinguish all past flames. When you're going through the box of items, remember this is a time to acknowledge the past, but keep in mind that it is the past. When you are comfortable, put everything back in the box and blow out your candle. Say a goodbye to your past love and get rid of the box. Give it to a friend, if you want to keep certain mementos for later on. Or, bury it or throw it out somewhere outside of your home.

*Tying Up Loose Ends
Was their something you wanted to tell your past love? Are there feelings or words trapped inside of you that you just need to get out? The best way to let these emotions free is by writing them down. Get out a pen and a paper and write a letter to your past love telling them everything you want them to know. Don't leave out anything. When you are done, fold it up and keep it in a special place. Do NOT give it to them. This is for your own personal, emotional release. You can also choose to burn the letter or rip it up as a ceremonial closure.

*Looking Towards The Future
If your heart is stuck in the past, its future can't be looking too bright. Instead of focusing on what you've lost, try to change your mental attitude to what you can have. Get a piece of paper and a pen and write down a list of things you can have now that you are single. Then write a list of things you want a future partner to have that your previous partner didn't have. Whenever you're feeling a loss about your past love, look over this list again to help redirect your thoughts.

*Out of Sight, Out of Mind
It is next to impossible to get over someone if you're constantly being reminded of them. If you have mementos of your relationship around your home, pack them up and get them out of sight. If you see your past love frequently at certain places, try to avoid them for a while. Similar to the above idea, steer your time and attention to things that help you create a happy life without your past love. Get involved in new groups or activities. Do things you have always wanted to that will keep your mind busy and away from what you're missing. Don't give in to the temptation to let the past be the center of your focus.

The biggest element to finding closure is finding your hope. Hope for the future. Hope for finding someone new who is an even better match than you could have dreamed for. Hope for your own happily, ever after. Once you've lost hope, you've given into the fact that destiny controls you, and not the other way around.